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:- How to give a good compliment
Delivering a good compliment is an art but once you master the basics, it will become second nature. Here are some tips on things to do when complimenting someone:
Be sincere.1-
Delivering a good compliment requires speaking from the heart. Don’t tell someone that you love his or her outfit if you secretly despise it. Only give a compliment if it’s well deserved, otherwise it will come across as phony.
2. Add a personal touch.
When delivering a compliment, the more specific you are the better. Instead of telling someone that they are a great cook, mention how much you loved the risotto they cooked for the church potluck. Incorporating details into your compliments will allow them to be better received
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3. Timing is everything.
Compliments work best when delivered in context. A boardroom meeting is not the time or the place to tell your boss that you like her new necklace, for example. Save that for the beginning of the day when she stops by your cubicle to greet you or when the two of you are having a candid conversation about fashion
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4. Avoid offensive subjects.
When giving a compliment, it’s important to avoid saying anything that may offend a person. Refrain from making someone feel uncomfortable about his or her race, gender, beliefs, and sexual orientation. Obama may have had good intentions by telling Harris that she was easy on the eyes, however, he failed to realize that calling her attractive discredited her hard work in her career. The Atlantic’s politics editor, Garance Franke-Rute had a great rebuttal to the President’s backlash this weekend, stating: “President Obama’s remark mistook the setting. Just as it’s perfectly appropriate to tell a colleague she looks gorgeous when she’s dressed to the nines for some black-tie work event, it would be inappropriate to refer to her as ‘gorgeous over there’ during a work meeting.”
5. Mix it up.
It’s perfectly fine to compliment the same person throughout the week, however, if you don’t find something new to appreciate about the person, you won’t come across as sincere. If you told your husband that you liked his shirt yesterday, complimenting every outfit he puts together the rest of the week would make your original words lose their luster. Instead, avert your focus to another area—maybe telling him how much you enjoyed the bottle of wine he picked up at the grocery store or how great his taste is in selecting
movies.
6. Learn how to receive a compliment as well
as give one.
Many of us shun compliments, often making the person who went out on a limb to give us one uncomfortable in the process. If someone says, “You look beautiful tonight,” refrain from dodging the compliment. Oftentimes, it’s human nature to want to say, “Nah. I look fat in this dress” or laugh uncomfortably when someone tells us something positive about ourselves. Instead, make a point of thanking the person for their kind words, smile, and own it.
A compliment can be one of the most powerful tools in human interaction, as long as it is delivered correctly. Even if you’re a pro at dishing out compliments, it never hurts to brush up on the complimenting do’s and don’ts. After his recent flub, it’s safe to assume that Obama is currently doing the same.
